Words of Wisdom No. 14

I see my path, but I don’t know where it leads. Not knowing where I’m going is what inspires me to travel it.
– Rosalia de Castro

Life is a journey, not a destination – we determine our destiny by the direction we take
– Anon

Live, travel, adventure, bless, and don’t be sorry.
– Jack Kerouac

The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.

One of the great things about travel is that you find out how many good, kind people there are.
– Edith Wharton

 One’s destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things.
– Henry Miller

To travel is worth any cost or sacrifice.
– Elizabeth Gilbert

No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow.
– Lin Yutang

Travel is the only thing you buy that makes you richer.
– Unknown

Up, up, up, and away!

In exactly 6 days, 16 hours, 17 minutes and 7 second I will be boarding a big jet plane and flying up, up, up and away!  Traveling almost halfway around the globe to the beautiful city of Copenhagen I will then join my best friend to prepare for her wedding. Whilst the happy couple are on their honeymoon will then to continue down southern Europe for a delightful holiday.

While I’ve been busy organising my itinerary and packing my luggage I’ve also been planning on sharing some of my exciting adventures with my dear readers too!

More details to come!
Clare
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The Art of Poise

One of my biggest hits in my blog stats is the Google search how to have poise or how to develop poise. So in response to the ladies out there I would like to share an in-depth article that will directly answer you question.

Firstly, let’s take a moment to actually define poise as such. The New Oxford American Dictionary defines this beautiful characteristic as “graceful and elegant bearing in a person“; “composure and dignity of manner“; and the last definition is “balance“.

Poise is not something that one can demand of you. It must be your willingness and your choice. It’s an attribute that will flow from your heart – coming from your inward thoughts and transcending into your actions. I believe the most essential element to perfect composure is for one to have the control over her emotions. Take the most elegant, sophisticated woman endowed with grace and dignity but who’s emotions are not restrained? I’m afraid all the former attributes are wasted.

Every decision and every action a poised woman makes shouldn’t be hasty and based purely on emotions rather part of a plan and given thorough thought. If a negative decision has not been given enough consideration in the past and the effects are visible she will take this opportunity to learn and grow. Whatever life throws at her she reminds herself that there is a purpose behind every challenge and a equal measure of strength to overcome it.

This woman should also have a defined purpose in life. She doesn’t meander her way through life aimlessly. She’s focused. She’s on a mission; if not several. Does that mean life’s perfect? Most probably quite the opposite. But it doesn’t phase her. Opportunities and offers may be graciously rejected if they are not within the plan. Although highly focused, this lady doesn’t just have a Plan A. She holds the blueprints for Plan B, Plan C, Plan D right through to Plan Z. Life always won’t go as planned. She may adjust and reschedule accordingly. If she follows an avenue that leads to a dead end – is there time to fret and complain? No way – life’s way to short! Why not try the next street?

One’s outlook on life incredibly effects her poise. How do you view the future? With hope, joy and excitement or does it hold a fear over you? Do you take on challenges with calmness and thought or does it cause you to doubt yourself?

Although, confidence plays a large role in a graceful, poised woman it’s not the ultimate ingredient. Many people will tell you confidence is the first ingredient to a graceful, poised lady. It’s true. If you have confidence you can gracefully hold yourself with strangers and in new situations much more ease. But can you still be elegant with a touch of shyness? My answer is a definite yes. How so?

I’ll let you in on a secret…From personal experience – I’m naturally a shy, quiet individual. My innate desire is to withdraw from big crowds and unknown places. For years I really struggled with building my confidence but I one day realized that confidence wouldn’t just show up on my doorstep one day. Confidence has to be pursued and chased and that’s exactly what I did! I forced myself out of my hometown, traveled across Europe, meeting strangers, working with people who didn’t speak my language, creating new friendships. At 19 years of age I moved myself to a new state, started a brand new circle of friends, attended a new Church, got myself a new job and started studying in a new school. Did I do it all at once? No. Bit by bit, step by step. For example, at school I didn’t start a group discussion in class; I only talked to one new person at a time. I only attended one job interview at a time. Gradually the confidence arose. I was successful at the last attempt why wouldn’t I be at the next one? Remember that “success comes in cans, not cant’s”.

Posture is another essential. People who exercise regularly have much better posture than those who don’t. Here’s a nifty idea of how to strengthen your posture.

If you don’t have great posture, stand up right now. Now imagine that there is a balloon on a string extending from the crown of your head. Imagine that this balloon is pulling your head upwards towards the sky. You’ll automatically stand upright with your spine elongated. Doesn’t this little mind trick work great? If you keep doing this for a few weeks, the habit will stick and you’ll have corrected your posture. Try it! It actually works!

In conclusion, don’t be surprised if you’re noticed. Poise is a rare quality these days and there is nothing more striking than a woman who knows how to hold herself with dignity and ease. Remember the words of Simone de Beauvoir when she stated “One is not born a woman; rather one becomes a woman.”

What is Etiquette

 

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Etiquette in simple terms is good manners. Just like saying, “Thank You”, “Please”, and “Your Welcome”, gives people the hint that are well mannered.

I also think that etiquette goes deeper than saying “thank you” and “please”. For a lady, it is poise and elegance, like sitting up straight, thinking before you speak ect., but in this post we are going to give you some basic hints and tips on how to become well mannered. By using these simple hints in your every day life, it will become easier and will soon become a habit, to use manners.

If you follow these simple tips, you will soon realize what a difference it makes, both how you act and how much people will respond back to you!

  • Think before you speak, this is especially helpful if you are more prone to saying the wrong things.
  • Respect your elders, listen and learn from them.
  • Use simple terms, like “You’re Welcome” and “Thank You”. People, who don’t have manners, don’t use these words.
  • Always speak highly of others, don’t try to cut people down, when you are speaking.
  • Pay attention to your posture in public, always sit with your shoulders back and stand with your feet together. Act as if you have some class.
  • A warm way of greeting someone is “Hello, How are you?” or “Good Evening/Good Morning”
  • Don’t swear! Eventually you will learn that bad words are not appropriate and avoid using them.
  • Do not cut people off when they are speaking. Wait till they are finished, and then add your comment.
  • Always speak highly of your parents. This show that you respect them, because they are your parents and also because they are older than you.
  • Be ready to open doors for people, and always offer for people to go first. Most people will accept your invitation, but if they don’t – don’t argue. Just politely accept and go first.
  • When you are talking on the phone, be sure to pause once in a while, in order to allow the other person some time to speak.
  • Show respect to your parents! They’ll be overjoyed that their family is speaking to them with respect, for respect shows that you have good manners.
  • One of the easiest ways to show that you are well mannered is to be silent and only to talk when you have something important to say. This adds weight to your words.
  • Start your day off by smiling and being happy! Treat everyone you come across with respect. Having manners doesn’t mean being sour. Be happy and laugh often.
  • Some people feel that being “mannered” is “fake” or inauthentic. Instead, realize that manners are social conventions that make interactions easier and more pleasant. Not every interaction is an opportunity to correct others or set them straight.


Good manners will never go out of style, so practice having good manners. It can only help you in the long run.

Try using manners in your everyday life, at work, in school, in the family, even when driving. People do notice good manners, so don’t be afraid to use these hints and tips!