Starting a Conversation

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The art of conversation takes practice, and it’s not as hard as one may think. It will take knowledge, patience and time, but you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.  Here’s a list some helpful hints on how to become a great conversationalist.

Be well versed on current events.  Make it your mission to be a generalist. Read local and national newspapers and magazines. Be up-to-date on current events in your country and around the world.

Questions?  People loved to be asked questions. Ask people for their opinions, ask what they think of various topics. Add what your opinion is; but steer clear of controversial topics.

Listen well.  This is a very important part of conversation. A good conversationalist is interested in what the other has to say, and can listen well. Pay attention to what is being said. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen, and then a turn to listen or respond.

Going to an Event.  Before you go to an event, think of a few questions you can ask to start a conversation. When you arrive at your hosts home, take a look around and inside their home, see what may be their interests. If your hosts, for example are interested in art, you most likely will see many paintings or artistic features displayed around the home.

Know when the conversation is over.  Even the best conversations eventually run out of steam. Shake hands with the other person, and be sure to tell them that you’ve greatly enjoyed talking with them. Ending a conversation on a positive note, will leave a good impression, and likely bring them back later!

Recommended Reading for Little Ladies

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Emilie Barnes is one of my favorite authors, so I thought I would share with you a wonderful book that she has written, entitled, “A Little Book of Manners, Courtesy and Kindness for Young Ladies”.   This simple – yet gorgeous book is perfect for ‘Little Ladies’, ages from 4-7 years old. With illustrations by talented artist Michal Sparks, Emile Marie makes basic manners fun and enjoyable.

Manners can be Fun!
Wouldn’t it be great to know how to set the table just right…and what to say to somebody you’ve just met… and the right words to use when you answer the phone?

Emilie Marie is learning all of these things and you can learn with her!

Practicing how to make every one feel welcome will make you happy, too.
You’ll have a wonderful time making pretty invitations for a special tea party or planning the best sleepover ever for your friends.
And you can make placemats together to help remember what you learn!

Manners are more than simple rules to remember – they’re a way of showing love!

Just a sample of the chapters covered are:
• “Please, Thank You, and Aunt Evelyn” – Why I’m glad I’m learning manners
• “Happy to Meet You!” – Meeting and greeting manners
• “Emilie Marie Speaking” – Telephone manners
• “Let’s Go Over to My House!” – playtime and visiting manners
and much more…

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To buy this book go here or to view Emilie Barnes’ website go here!

What is Etiquette

 

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Etiquette in simple terms is good manners. Just like saying, “Thank You”, “Please”, and “Your Welcome”, gives people the hint that are well mannered.

I also think that etiquette goes deeper than saying “thank you” and “please”. For a lady, it is poise and elegance, like sitting up straight, thinking before you speak ect., but in this post we are going to give you some basic hints and tips on how to become well mannered. By using these simple hints in your every day life, it will become easier and will soon become a habit, to use manners.

If you follow these simple tips, you will soon realize what a difference it makes, both how you act and how much people will respond back to you!

  • Think before you speak, this is especially helpful if you are more prone to saying the wrong things.
  • Respect your elders, listen and learn from them.
  • Use simple terms, like “You’re Welcome” and “Thank You”. People, who don’t have manners, don’t use these words.
  • Always speak highly of others, don’t try to cut people down, when you are speaking.
  • Pay attention to your posture in public, always sit with your shoulders back and stand with your feet together. Act as if you have some class.
  • A warm way of greeting someone is “Hello, How are you?” or “Good Evening/Good Morning”
  • Don’t swear! Eventually you will learn that bad words are not appropriate and avoid using them.
  • Do not cut people off when they are speaking. Wait till they are finished, and then add your comment.
  • Always speak highly of your parents. This show that you respect them, because they are your parents and also because they are older than you.
  • Be ready to open doors for people, and always offer for people to go first. Most people will accept your invitation, but if they don’t – don’t argue. Just politely accept and go first.
  • When you are talking on the phone, be sure to pause once in a while, in order to allow the other person some time to speak.
  • Show respect to your parents! They’ll be overjoyed that their family is speaking to them with respect, for respect shows that you have good manners.
  • One of the easiest ways to show that you are well mannered is to be silent and only to talk when you have something important to say. This adds weight to your words.
  • Start your day off by smiling and being happy! Treat everyone you come across with respect. Having manners doesn’t mean being sour. Be happy and laugh often.
  • Some people feel that being “mannered” is “fake” or inauthentic. Instead, realize that manners are social conventions that make interactions easier and more pleasant. Not every interaction is an opportunity to correct others or set them straight.


Good manners will never go out of style, so practice having good manners. It can only help you in the long run.

Try using manners in your everyday life, at work, in school, in the family, even when driving. People do notice good manners, so don’t be afraid to use these hints and tips!