Happiness – it’s Your Responsibility

If we were to take a poll of what made people happy in today’s society, the answers would be many and varied.  For some, it depends on a sought-after dream being fulfilled, wealth and popularity or finding the perfect soulmate.  For others happiness is drawn from more simplistic forms such as a giggle from a child they love or the dawn of a bright, new day.

It’s true that so many women today tie their happiness to things that are temporary.  As they meander their way through life they find they are continually let down.  Why?  Well, to be completely honest. . . Friends change.  Dreams sometimes crumble.  A lifestyle can be fleeting.  A relationship may ebb and flow.  A once successful career may collapse.  Even a pair of Louboutin shoes will eventually wear out.

“Joy has nothing to do with material things, or with man’s outward circumstance…A man living in the lap of luxury can be wretched, and a man in the depths of poverty can overflow with joy.”
– William Barclay

But does this really mean that happiness too has to fade and vanish? Absolutely not!  There is no reason why your happiness can’t be elevated by uplifting relationships, achievements, and events for they are so often the greatest sources of joy.  But there must be a foundation stronger and more stable for your own contentment.

The Choice is Yours

“Happiness isn’t something that depends on our surroundings…It’s something we make inside ourselves.”
– Corrie Ten Boom

Ultimately, happiness is a choice.  You can choose to let things, people, emotions and feelings elate your joy or disturb it.  All the happiness that you can ever dream of belongs to you.  It’s in your hands.  You can choose to mold it, shape it, fashion it and multiply it.  Or on the other hand you can hide it, stow it, put it in a dark corner and blow it out.
Whatever your present situation you decide if the outcome is either positive or negative.

Cherish the Simple Pleasures

Life continually gives. Look around you – wherever you are and see how truly blessed you are!   At home?  You have a roof over your head that provides sufficient protection.  In a cafe?  You have a delicious selection of fresh food at your convenience.  At work?  You’re so lucky to have a regular paycheck coming through each week.

I know so many of us (including myself!) take the simple joys and pleasures in life for granted.  Things that come naturally everyday without invitation.

  • Waking up to a fresh, new day alive and breathing! No matter what happens in the hours ahead, you can come back to your breath for a sense of peace and presence
  • Freedom for faith, religion, beliefs and values of our own choice
  • Language to communicate, ideas, plans, dreams
  • Your future is completely open, ready to be seized and enjoyed
  • Wisdom to open opportunities for us to grow as a person and gain greater awareness and understanding of ourselves and world around us
  • A sense of safety that makes it possible to experience love, pleasure, and trust
  • Health.  Even if you don’t have perfect health right now be encouraged that our bodies are made to heal.  Learn to cherish your health, preserve it, and when you get sick feel blessed that you will get better.
  • You have a purpose!  When our true purpose is discovered we awake with renewed vigor and resolve

The list is endless. . . Really you don’t need much to realise just how blessed we really are from this statistic.

This week rests in your hands.  Yes, challenges will try to steal away your happiness and joy.  Take a hold of it and don’t let it go!  Share it and double the joy!

Have a beautiful week . . .

Starting 2010 with Style

A New Chapter Begins...

“The first thing to do in life is to do with purpose what one purposes to do.”

As a New Year falls upon us, it provides us with a perfect opportunity to review our past year?  What goals have we accomplished?  What areas in our personal life do we need to work on?  How could we improve on family relationships and boost our friendships?  Does our wardrobe needs some refreshing or reorganizing?

Reorganize Your Life!
Ah yes, how simple does that seem!  Don’t be discouraged however, take a moment or two to write down a simple itinery of your day.  For example, your waking time in the morning and retiring at night, meal times, set aside times for regular exercise and quality family time.  I’ve personally found that if I’m struggling to have enough hours in my day, getting up an hour or so earlier in the morning makes such a difference! If your not naturally a ‘morning person’ give yourself some time to wake up, have a glass of water, and spend a few minuets mapping out your day.  Oftentimes, we find it hard to get up in the morning because we’re going to bed so late!  It’s is said that one hour of sleep before midnight is worth two after, so it’s important to get to be at a reasonable time.

Are you trying to shed those few pounds that have crept up on you through the year? Remember diets don’t generally work, lifestyle changes are what you need.  Why not rally your friends together to power-walk once or twice a week.  Exercise can sometimes become boring if you do it alone, so company is always appreciated and it’s a healthy and free!

Refresh your wardrobe!
Go through your wardrobe, toss out the items that have lost their shape or elastic. Double check your socks and pantyhose for holes or ladders.  Do you have some clothes that are past there used-by-date?  Go over your shoes, even your outdoorsy ones – get them into some sudsy water on a sunny day and give them a good scrub.
It’s around this time that many shops are getting rid of last years fashion.  Go though your wardrobe and see if you need to update any items.  Jot down what you need on a list and take it with you when you go shopping.  That way you won’t overspend and you’ll get what you really need.

Reconnect with loved ones!
Over the year, it’s too easy to get way-laid with work and personal commitments.  Have you a friend who has been left by the wayside?  Now is the perfect occasion to re-connect with those loved ones.  Why not jot down a little note on some pretty paper and send it through the ‘old-fashioned’ snail mail?  What a surprise they will get!

If you’re on Facebook, go through your ‘friends list’ and write a note to someone who may need encouraging or a old classmate you haven’t kept in touch with.

Do you have an old girlfriend who is going through a hard time?  Why not organize a day out in the city, sightseeing a free art-gallery or take a picnic lunch to the botanical gardens?  It’s inexpensive and you’ll both enjoy the time together!

Give, Give, Give
There is a quotation that says “The capacity to care is the thing that gives life its deepest meaning and significance. ” by that I’ve made my life motto.  We all know that when we give to others, we receive the greatest blessing!  The most unhappy people are those that only think of themselves.

This year why not make a purpose to to lend either your hands or time to make the lives of others a little more bright.   Volunteer you’re services to you’re local community at fundraising events.  It’s a great way to get involved in your community and get to meet individuals from different walks of life.  It’s a proven fact that volunteers live longer!

Learn to Forgive
Let’s face it: we all make mistakes.  And to live a stress-free, happy life we must learn to forgive.  Forgiving is an essential quality to have in life.  I’m sure we have all witnessed at one stage of our life when someone doesn’t forgive. It does not produce happiness or health but it eats you away and makes you a miserable person.  I’ve also found leaning to forgive someone even when they don’t come to you and ask for your forgiveness is an equally essential character trait to have.  It’s important to learn how to forgive and not hold a grudge against the person who has wrong you, will make your life much happier! An old proverb says “The best deed of a great man is to forgive and forget.”