Isn’t She Lovely No. 4 | feat. Mary

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Here at Grace and Poise its no secret, Princess Mary is our poster girl.  She eludes everything we represent: grace, elegance, femininity, responsible values and a caring heart.  So when she appeared on the cover of Women’s Weekly magazine this month we were thrilled with the results!

What’s your thoughts on Mary’s new portraits?

Love it or loathe it?

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The Art of Marriage

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When I recently stumbled across a letter Paul Newman wrote to his bride on their wedding day, I was inspired.    With a marriage spanning 50-years, there is no doubt that Mr Newman knew the ingredients to a long, happy and successful marriage.  Not only does this letter contain wisdom for a romantic relationship but I found the values also applicable to the interactions we have our friends and family.

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

A good marriage must be created.

In the Art of Marriage, the little things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say ‘I love you’ at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

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It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding rooms for things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Related Reads:

The Art of Poise

The Art of Inner Beauty

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30 Simple Ways to Have More Romance In Your Life

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For some, its a gift that comes rather naturally but for others romance is a act by which we continually need to be conscious and thoughtful of.   Gifts, hugs, a note to say ‘I love you’ are small acts of kindness that are just the beginning of true romance.

In the course of life we sometimes forget those who are nearest and dearest to us. Perhaps the ‘honeymoon’ phase is over within a relationship and daily activities takeover an idealized life.  Its true, romance takes time, it takes risk and it takes a daring heart.  Encourage yourself to leap off the cliff and take on the challenge.  Being truly romantic involves opening yourself up and revealing your feelings to someone else.  Its a risk but if taken seriously, its a risk worth taking.

While romance is often associated with a partner, boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse, I believe that romance, the act of giving and sharing love should not be kept for when ‘in a relationship‘ only. What better practice than to shower your parents, sister, brother or friends with love and adoration is little ways?

Thoughts to remember when considering romance:

  • How is more important than why.
  • ‘Good chemistry’ has nothing to do with compatibility.
  • The process of romance must be respected. There’s not shortcuts! If some form of romance is not on your to-do list, you may want to reevaluate your priorities.
  • ‘Communication’ is 10 percent of an A+ relationship. Creating a loving, long-term relationship is the most difficult, time-consuming, and complicated challenge you will face in your entire life. Also the most rewarding!

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Add a little romance to your life:

1. Say ‘I love you’ at least once a day.

2. No need for fancy dinners to pull out the candles. Why not share takeout by candlelight?

3. Write a little note – pop it in the book he/she is reading.

4. Write a letter sharing how grateful you are to have him/her in your life. Send via snail mail for a simple surprise.

5. Finding yourself always forgetful of anniversaries or special dates such as Mother’s day? Place a standing order with your local florist and provide the dates for flowers to be sent out. Have the florist charge your card and bill you automatically. This technique is for the forever-forgetful and terminally organised!

6. Always stay in touch with the special, memorable, unique ways that the two of you have had fun together. What is your fondest memory with him/her? Why not, do it again!

7. Learn his/her ‘blind spots’ and encourage him/her in those areas.

8. Learn hi/her ‘soft spots’ and indulge in them.

9. Understand the difference between a gift and a present. A present is something that you’re giving the receiver because its something you want him/her to have. In contrast, a gift is something that you’re sure the receiver wants. What has he/she wanted for a really long time but held back from buying? Now is your opportunity!

10. Learn his/her all-time fravourite meal and learn how to create it!  Get help from friends, family or neighbours – whatever it takes!

11. Hold a ‘romance idea brainstorming session’.  Create a list of ideas and activities for the next month or so.

12. Do you take your partner/friend for granted?  It’s time to stop!  Take time to show that you appreciate their strengths and how their life has impacted yours in a positive way.

13. When was the last time the two of you simply went for a walk together?  Not only is this a great opportunity to spend some one-on-one time together but it also has added health benefits!

14. Compliment him/her in front of friends and family.

15. Open doors for her with an extra little flourish.

16. Surprise him/her by giving him/her a gift on your birthday!

17. Do you know your partner well?  Memorize their fravourite colour, flower, author, Bible passage, song, meal, ice-cream flavour, restaurant, artist, style of artwork, role model.

18. Why not… cook a meal together?

19. Sit down at the beginning of each month and discuss romantic plans that will fit into other scheduled appointments and commitments.

20. Remember: occasional romance is nice but its limited.  Romance that spans over time is what its really all about.  Why?  Simply because consistency of romantic efforts reflect your commitment to your partner.  It shows that he or she is top priority in your life.

21. Why not…shake up your routine.  Changing your routine often leads to new ideas and a fresh perspective.

22. Think different: Always late? Be on-time!

23. Complete that chore or favor that your partner has wanted you to do for a long time.

24. Wear your favourite perfume to bed – even if you sleep alone!  Or tuck dried lavender inside of pillow cases before using them for a fragrant surprise.

25. Understand that the disagreements are an integral part of the plot.  Respect the other individual’s wishes/desires/believes.  Never be too proud to not listen to the other side of the story.

26. Light candles when you arrive home, rather than turning on all the lights in the house.

27. Listen to relaxing music rather than turning on the television.

28. Keep fresh flowers by your nightstand.

29. Switch off the electronic equipment such as iPads/laptops/computers and enjoy a relaxing evening with a book.

30. Take a cooking class together.  Learn how to perfect your fravourite dish.

Related articles:

In Celebration of Valentine’s Day

Words of Wisdom No. 12 on the subject of love

Love Inspiration

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Gentleman vs. Player

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A man who flatters her vs. a gentleman who compliments her.

A man who spends money on her vs. a gentleman who invests in her.

A man who views her as property vs. a gentleman who views her properly.

A man who lusts after her vs. a gentleman who loves her.

A man who believes he is a gift to women vs. a gentleman who believes she’s a gift to him.

Related Articles:

Guest Post: Peter Ryan on Respect

Words of Wisdom No. 22 on the subject of Gentlemen

International Be a Gentlemen Day

Thoughts of Femininity from a Gentleman

Words of Wisdom No. 22

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This month’s Word’s of Wisdom comes from a gentleman’s philosophy on the characteristics of a lady.

Is there anything more inspiring than to be reminded perhaps not just by the women around us, but by the gentlemen in our presence that we are created beautiful and feminine?  Composing this post was a powerful reminder for me of my responsibility to be more feminine and graceful not only in my actions and words but in my thought processes.  As the old adage goes: ‘what a man thinketh – that shall he be.’

May you be inspired by the simple, gentle yet oh-so-powerful reminders that you are created feminine, lovely and intelligent.

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God is the ultimate gentleman. He’s always opening doors for you and putting you first.

Embrace the struggle – don’t avoid it … that’s how you win.

LADIES’ TIP: Someone’s pretty doesn’t take away from your beauty – confident women always embrace other women.

Sometimes you gotta get your own flowers – don’t wait on someone to love you before you do.

God is in control … nothing is coincidence.

Reaching success on your “own” doesn’t make you self-made – God was present the whole time whether you acknowledge Him or not.

If you wouldn’t be friends out of the relationship, you have no business being in the relationship.

If being with him/her minimizes your potential, leave – it’s just that simple. Your relationship should propel you.

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Some women compromise with the idea that they can change a man down the line … May God be with you.

LADIES’ TIP: Not all compliments come with agendas – relax, he was being nice.

You have a 100% chance of success when you do it God’s way.

Let no one push you into a marriage – a lifetime decision requires prayer, not pressure.

Isn’t God good? Just sit back & think about how much He loves you … overwhelming.

Disciplined people submit their emotions to wisdom.

Your impact should be greater than your image.

Failure is far more respected than not trying.

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When a lady says she wants a good guy but dates the bad boy – it’s likely because she hasn’t met a balanced gentleman.

When you focus on all your blessings and the good people around you, there’s nothing to complain about. Nothing.

LADIES’ TIP: Distance yourselves from random bitter man-hating women or you will become one.

Cover your ears & open your eyes – people will always speak with their actions … Always.

Today I woke up thanking God for another opportunity to wake up and thank God. Today will be a good day … it always is.

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Related articles written by gentlemen:

Guest Post: Respect by Peter Ryan, Today’s Gentleman

Guest Post: Thoughts on Femininity by Michael Shepherd

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