“Life is not so short but that there is always time for courtesy.”
The art of conversation takes pracitce, and it’s not as hard as one may think. Despite the fact, that it does take an considerable amount of time and patience, but it’s certainly an assest to know how to start a conversation and to carry it through with style. Some people are blessed with a silver tongue, they can even converse to virtual strangers with ease, but for others it’s a little different. Here we will list some helpful hints on how to become a great coversationalist.
Be well versed on current events.
Make it your mission to be a generalist. Read local and national newspapers and magazines. Be up-to-date on current events in your country and around the world.
People loved to be asked questions. Ask people for their opinions, ask what they think of various topics. Add what your opinion is; but steer clear of controversial topics. When you ask questions, be genuinely interested in what your asking. Ask about their family, or what is their interests? You’ll be sure to get a response! On the other hand, it’s rude and unmannerly to hound someone with a bucketful of questions.
This is a very important part of conversation. A good conversationalist is interested in what the other has to say, and can listen well. Pay attention to what is being said. Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to
talk, and then a turn to listen or respond. Many can easily forget this sequence. Too often one person will rule a conversation, whilst the other has to barge in, to say something. It’s wise to take a small break after you have said your bit, so the other can reply, and vise versa.
Going to an event
Before you go to an event, think of who may attend. Then think of a few questions you can ask to start a converstation. When you arrive at your hosts home, take a look around and inside their home, see what may be their interests. If your hosts, for example are interested in art, you most likely will see many paintings or artistic features displayed around the home.
Know when the conversation is over
Even the best conversations eventually run out of steam. Shake hands with the other person, and be sure to tell them that you’ve greatly enjoyed talking with them. Ending a conversation on a positive note, will leave a good impression, and likely bring them back later!
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Things have been quiet around here, but we wish to bring you many more interesting and informative articles in the near future!
(Hands up for those who pass!)
Is it appropriate to place your elbows on the table when there is no food in front of you? Should thank you notes should be sent within 24 hours? In a business introduction, should a woman should wait for the man to extend his hand?
Test your etiquette awarness today, and take this 14 question test – and find the answers!
In the coming post, we will go into more depth on if, and why these answers are correct.
One of the reasons why ‘etiquette’ seems a severe word is because it has so often been a means of separating people instead of bringing them together. It smacks of snobbery, a mark of insecurity. So I thought it would be appropriate at this time, to find the real definitions of the word etiquette and other related ones also.
the customary code of polite behaviour in society or among members of a particular profession or group.
ORIGIN — mid 18th century: from French ‘etiquette list of ceremonial observances of a court’
a persons behaviour or manners
ORIGIN — early 17th century: from French de’portment, from the verb d’eporter
simple elegance or refinement of movement
ORIGIN — Middle English: via Old French from Latin gratia, from gratus ‘pleasing, thankful’
graceful and elegant bearing in person; composure and dignity of manner
ORIGIN — from Old French pois, peis